...when it affects so many of us? It’s amazing that healthy mental health is essential to a happier way of life, yet, so many people are afraid to seek professional help when it comes to common mental health disorders such as anxiety, depression, difficulty concentrating, grief, mood swings, bipolar, and other difficulties in life that can be remedied with acknowledging that there is a problem and learning to understand mental health problems.
In a recent survey, one in four admitted to suffering from mental health disorders, with depression and anxiety topping the list – but do people truly understand what these words mean?
Your mental wellness affects everything from your thoughts to your behavior to your relationships. It may deplete your energy, mood and quality of rest. It can lower self-esteem, your beliefs about yourself, and sink your self-confidence and feelings of self-worth, causing you to interact differently towards others. It may feel like your days are regularly filled with a series of obstacles.
Some say that bad luck is a blessing to them because at least they are having some sort of any type of luck at all. Sad, isn’t it?
People feel shame about not being what they perceive as “normal.” They may feel like they’re “broken” or “damaged” or “they’ll always be this way”. They judge themselves. They compare their internal lives to others’ external lives, which they view as successful.
In fact, the only person we should be comparing ourselves to is the one we see in the reflection of our own mirror. We are always our own worst critic. But what if we could always be our own best friend? There is a mental health stigma that must end.
The image that society so often presents us with is of sad, lonely individuals; demonstrating the troubling stigma and misconceptions that still surround mental illnesses.
If you say to someone 'I have anxiety', their immediate thought is often predictable. They believe you merely overthink things. “You’re paranoid,” they say. They can’t begin to comprehend the constant anticipatory state of mind you possess, how on edge and restless your mind is.
When I am personally overwhelmed with anxiety, and someone says, “Just chill” it is so irritating, in my opinion. But then I remember, they simply do not understand what I am trying to tell them.
Other times, I hear things like, “Be more confident in yourself…or “Stop taking on so much…you are working too hard...let it go…you shouldn’t worry so much about these things.” Responses I’ve heard repeatedly when the topic arises. Oh my! If I had only thought of that! Thanks for that! (I think to myself) as if with this advice, my concerns, my endless worry and concerns (which usually have nothing to do with anything I am able to do anything about at the time) - which have given me so many sleepless nights - will simply melt away.
But seriously, why are we so ashamed of anxiety? I mean, it is not like its our fault. And it does not mean that we are weak.
If anything, acknowledging that we may have an increase of anxiety is the first step and an incredibly brave one at that. It takes COURAGE and STRENGTH to face it, and to seek help. Mental Health Problems are, even in these supposedly enlightened times, still often seen as something shameful.
Be sure to work with a therapist. Seeing a therapist can help you develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself.
By learning to love yourself AS IS and see gratitude in the positive qualities you possess, you will embrace and learn to accept and work with the circumstances of your life as they actually are. Self-compassion builds healthy, unconditional self-esteem. Self-compassion may include learning about your mental wellness, embracing the good with the bad, and finding a purpose. This can be life altering.
I encourage you to love the qualities within yourself that you feel are different from others. Embrace the good with the bad. DO not compare yourself to others.
And by doing this, you can come out of isolation, tap into your sense of connection with others and realize that YOU ARE NOT ALONE- by any means- in fact- there are more that understand than you may realize!!
Thanks for reading. Be kind to yourself first and foremost. And be kind to a stranger- you never know what kind of day they are having or what they may be going through!
Thanks for reading!
Three Million People In The US Are Living With This...