Words of Clarity - Understand Mental Health Problems

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Why Is There Shame Associated With Mental Health Problems...?

...when it affects so many of us? It’s amazing that healthy mental health is essential to a happier way of life, yet, so many people are afraid to seek professional help  when it comes to common mental health disorders such as anxiety, depression,  difficulty concentrating, grief, mood swings, bipolar, and other  difficulties in life that can be remedied with acknowledging that there  is a problem and learning to understand mental health problems.  


In a recent survey, one in four admitted to suffering from mental health disorders, with depression and anxiety topping the list – but do people truly understand what these words mean? 


Your  mental wellness affects everything from your thoughts to your behavior  to your relationships. It may deplete your energy, mood and quality of  rest. It  can lower self-esteem, your beliefs about yourself, and sink your  self-confidence and feelings of self-worth, causing you to interact  differently towards others. It may feel like your days are regularly filled with a series of obstacles. 


Some say that bad luck is a blessing to them because at least they are having some sort of any type of luck at all. Sad, isn’t it?  


People feel shame about not being what they perceive as “normal.” They  may feel like they’re “broken” or “damaged” or “they’ll always be this  way”. They judge themselves. They compare their internal lives to  others’ external lives, which they view as successful. 


In fact, the only person we should be comparing ourselves to is the one we see in the reflection of our own mirror. We are always our own worst critic. But what if we could always be our own best friend? There is a mental health stigma that must end.


The  image that society so often presents us with is of sad, lonely  individuals; demonstrating the troubling stigma and misconceptions that  still surround mental illnesses. 


If you say to someone 'I have anxiety', their immediate thought is often predictable. They believe you merely overthink things.  “You’re paranoid,” they say. They can’t begin to comprehend the  constant anticipatory state of mind you possess, how on edge and  restless your mind is. 


When  I am personally overwhelmed with anxiety, and someone says, “Just  chill” it is so irritating, in my opinion. But then I remember, they simply do not understand what I am trying to tell them. 


Other  times, I hear things like, “Be more confident in yourself…or “Stop  taking on so much…you are working too hard...let it go…you shouldn’t  worry so much about these things.” Responses I’ve heard repeatedly when  the topic arises. Oh my! If I had only thought of that!  Thanks for that! (I think to myself) as if with this advice, my  concerns, my endless worry and concerns (which usually have nothing to  do with anything I am able to do anything about at the time) - which  have given me so many sleepless nights - will simply melt away. 


But seriously, why are we so ashamed of anxiety?  I mean, it is not like its our fault. And it does not mean that we are  weak. 


If anything, acknowledging that we may have an increase of anxiety  is the first step and an incredibly brave one at that. It takes COURAGE and STRENGTH to face it, and to seek help. Mental Health Problems are, even in these supposedly enlightened times, still often seen as something shameful. 


Be sure to work with a therapist. Seeing a therapist can help you develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself. 


By learning to love yourself AS IS and see gratitude  in the positive qualities you possess, you will embrace and learn to  accept and work with the circumstances of your life as they actually  are. Self-compassion  builds healthy, unconditional self-esteem. Self-compassion may include  learning about your mental wellness, embracing the good with the bad,  and finding a purpose. This can be life altering. 


I encourage you to love the qualities within yourself that you feel are different from others. Embrace the good with the bad. DO not compare yourself to others. 


And by doing this, you can come out of isolation, tap into your sense of connection with others and realize that YOU ARE NOT ALONE- by any means- in fact- there are more that understand than you may realize!!  



Thanks  for reading. Be kind to yourself first and foremost. And be kind to a  stranger- you never know what kind of day they are having or what they  may be going through!


Thanks for reading!


Tiffany


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